wildhounds
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System Name: Wilds
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Post by wildhounds on Jan 29, 2023 4:05:50 GMT
so I've noticed that like... whenever any of my alters are around, either passively influencing me (so i can sort of feel their 'vibes' but they're not super influencing my behaviour, just my thoughts/feelings) or co-fronting (so i start to act and sound more like them), i eventually get REALLY burnt out and fatigued by it. I'll experience the kind of fatigue I usually only get from focusing on something for too long - but the same thing also happens if I try too hard to just sound like "me" (Bard) when it's not just me around...
I think it's especially tiring when there's more than one other alter around tbh; if I'm trying to think for everyone at once it's like... exhausting. We've been doing a lot of organisational self-expression stuff lately where we kind of organise things (virtual pets, for example) according to which alter(s) like them, and as enjoyable as it is it also leaves us like... completely burnt out by the sheer effort sdkfjsndflkjgn.
I'm not sure where I'm going with this tbh. I think I'm mostly just curious if other people experience tiredness and fatigue when alters switch in or influence the current fronter, or what else people might experience when it happens.
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Post by The Gamut on Jan 29, 2023 4:54:14 GMT
yes, big time! i'm frontstuck and the others usually have to go "through" me as the host and use me like a proxy or conduit to like, interact with the outside world and communicate and all that... most of the time when they're "typing" it's usually, technically me typing for them, with a dose of passive influence and stuff... i'm not sure if we were always like that or if i became less prone to partially leaving the front as time went on and we healed from stuff to be honest.
as much as i love having them come up to front to chat i definitely get drained after extended periods. the more people in front, the more tiring it is, usually. having all five of us out isn't usually sustainable for very long. i guess sharing a brain and all, it's tiring to have to keep track of five people's thoughts all at once... and since i'm the host and most connected to the physical body i kinda get the brunt of it, i've never really noticed them getting tired by it but it does happen sometimes. i hate asking them to leave but sometimes it's like "okay guys i love you all but i think my head is gonna explode."
either way, tl;dr yes this is similar to our own experiences i would say!
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wildhounds
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Post by wildhounds on Jan 31, 2023 8:39:43 GMT
most of the time when they're "typing" it's usually, technically me typing for them, with a dose of passive influence and stuffhaving all five of us out isn't usually sustainable for very long. i guess sharing a brain and all, it's tiring to have to keep track of five people's thoughts all at once... and since i'm the host and most connected to the physical body i kinda get the brunt of it, i've never really noticed them getting tired by it but it does happen sometimes. OUGH thank you for responding! These parts in particular feel SO similar to my own experiences that it like. Made me smile irl to read them because I'm so used to feeling kind of alienated from other systems akjsnfkjnf it's exciting to meet folks who have similar experiences!!
I think I've only noticed Max and HAL getting tired of fronting a couple of times, which I guess makes sense since they tend to hold a lot of negative emotions - Max often deals with stressful situations/social encounters, and HAL comes around when we're too exhausted/burnt out to deal with people too, so it makes sense that they'd both get tired after a while. In the moment it often still feels like ME getting tired though - same with when I'm typing for them, it often feels like I'm a conduit more than anything else.
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DHC-Fawn
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Post by DHC-Fawn on Jan 31, 2023 13:52:38 GMT
[ This] reddit thread on r/plural seems to be relevant to the conversation and may interest you. Our host commented on it and will quote the relevant part of our response; Generally speaking, it seems a lot of systems experience this to some degree, and as they get used to sustaining a switch/co-front the easier and less draining it gets. This is also seems to be the case with communication. |
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